Hey guys - got a bit of an issue here that I would like to canvas opinions on. It is on the V and K thing - remember, V is my best friend that we are kinda sorta heading down the path to something more, and K is my ex that I still talk to...
Anyways, I haven't yet told K about V being around, and this is the only major sticking point I still have with V. As V rightly points out, I tell K almost everything else, from me being an uncle to my job prospects and such, but I do keep my social life pretty vagueish as well (partly because it is fairly vague and non formed anyways LOL) as well as the whole V thing. Now, all my relationship feelings towards K have gone (as they do anyways over time), I am not going back to Canada to restart anything, and my thinking is I wouldn't be talking about new relationships with an ex whoever the new relationship is with, be it V or someone in Brisbane LOL.
But V is adamant that I need to tell K that V is in my life and from what I understand, the exact and full information about what I am doing. Up to me coming back from Canada, I was very open with V about the situation with K, and since coming back, I have basically cut off that particular information flow - which I am sure bugs V no end. My take on that issue is that I caused K enough grief already, why rake over the dying embers for the public anymore - of course, that leads to the thinking why was I so open with my friends etc about blow by blow descriptions while I was living with K, but I realise that was a mistake on my part.
And hanging over all this thinking is V saying that if I don't tell K, she will. Which would really set the cats amongst the pigeons, and would probably ruin both the V and K friendship angles. Why should I tell exes about current relationships if I don't want to tell? Is this just 'normal' jealousy on V's part? To twist the knife further in K when K knows I am not coming back anyways? Would it help if I opened up the showing emails thing again, to show her how bland and ordinary my communications with K are?
V says that K NEEDS to know how I am moving on from the whole Canadian episode of my life, but I am sure she knows that already, and yes, I do tell K about other aspects of my life, but only in the vaguest of terms.
Answers on the back of a postcard please, and yes, this time around I really WOULD like feedback - not just begging for comments for the sake of them or anything :)
Hmm, and with the Pope's death and all, was it just me or did anyone else get the whole sense of cult of personality? Well, maybe that is too harsh a word, but everyone was/is mourning the actual Pope, and hardly talking about God at all, who, after all, is the real boss of the Church. The Pope I thought was God's ambassador on Earth, at least for the Catholics, rather than important in his own right. Going with the ambassador thought, he has just been recalled, and another ambassador will be picked. Oh, it WAS just me that has those thoughts you say, LOL, sorry :)
But yes, answers to the central dilemma today would be appreciated...
Pauly
Anyways, I haven't yet told K about V being around, and this is the only major sticking point I still have with V. As V rightly points out, I tell K almost everything else, from me being an uncle to my job prospects and such, but I do keep my social life pretty vagueish as well (partly because it is fairly vague and non formed anyways LOL) as well as the whole V thing. Now, all my relationship feelings towards K have gone (as they do anyways over time), I am not going back to Canada to restart anything, and my thinking is I wouldn't be talking about new relationships with an ex whoever the new relationship is with, be it V or someone in Brisbane LOL.
But V is adamant that I need to tell K that V is in my life and from what I understand, the exact and full information about what I am doing. Up to me coming back from Canada, I was very open with V about the situation with K, and since coming back, I have basically cut off that particular information flow - which I am sure bugs V no end. My take on that issue is that I caused K enough grief already, why rake over the dying embers for the public anymore - of course, that leads to the thinking why was I so open with my friends etc about blow by blow descriptions while I was living with K, but I realise that was a mistake on my part.
And hanging over all this thinking is V saying that if I don't tell K, she will. Which would really set the cats amongst the pigeons, and would probably ruin both the V and K friendship angles. Why should I tell exes about current relationships if I don't want to tell? Is this just 'normal' jealousy on V's part? To twist the knife further in K when K knows I am not coming back anyways? Would it help if I opened up the showing emails thing again, to show her how bland and ordinary my communications with K are?
V says that K NEEDS to know how I am moving on from the whole Canadian episode of my life, but I am sure she knows that already, and yes, I do tell K about other aspects of my life, but only in the vaguest of terms.
Answers on the back of a postcard please, and yes, this time around I really WOULD like feedback - not just begging for comments for the sake of them or anything :)
Hmm, and with the Pope's death and all, was it just me or did anyone else get the whole sense of cult of personality? Well, maybe that is too harsh a word, but everyone was/is mourning the actual Pope, and hardly talking about God at all, who, after all, is the real boss of the Church. The Pope I thought was God's ambassador on Earth, at least for the Catholics, rather than important in his own right. Going with the ambassador thought, he has just been recalled, and another ambassador will be picked. Oh, it WAS just me that has those thoughts you say, LOL, sorry :)
But yes, answers to the central dilemma today would be appreciated...
Pauly
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